Question: Is there anyway to make it clearer what my sexual orientation is?
As people, we sometimes have a need to label things. This includes our sexual identity. These labels help us to put a name to what we are feeling. However, often these labels are created to help other people understand who we are, and can even limit our identity.
There is no rule that says we have to identify as “gay”, “lesbian”, “bisexual”, “queer” or any other. It is up to us to decide if those words suit us. For some, no existing label suits them.
If you are feeling confused about your identity, attractions and feelings, take your time to fully explore them as much as you feel comfortable doing so; there’s no rush. Making the decision to choose a label is yours to make on your own time, and certainly no one else’s.
If you do decide to choose a label at some point, know that it can change as you learn more about yourself.
This may not be a straight forward “you-should-do-this” answer because no one can (or should) tell you who you are except yourself.
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